Day 2: Do you FLUNK at Facebook-ing? "Private Message and Private Chat"

Here we are, day 2 of the series "Do you FLUNK at Facebook-ing?"   Yesterday we went over intentional and unintentional App abuse (a term I've coined as cr-app)  Today we will be going over how NOT to use use Private Messaging and Chat.

Private Messages

A very tempting way to send a private, personal message.  Some think they'll have a captive audience as all it takes is 'just a second' for someone to read about your BEST OPPORTUNITY on the face of the planet... But there is a time and a place.  Remember as I said yesterday "you could be broadcasting your activity to hundreds of thousands of persons".  I'm going to show you how this will BENEFIT you, but not yet.  First the nitty dirty gritty of what you are doing WRONG.

Bad Scenario Number 1:  You request friendship and are accepted, you send your new friend a Private Message and you say "Thank you for adding me!  Have you seen this new ground floor opportunity yet?" with your link attached.  You are GOING to have your message DELETED.  Also keep and eye out where your friend count just went UP one it may go DOWN 1.

Bad Scenario Number 2:  Someone requested YOUR friendship and you accepted, you send your new friend a Private Message and you say "Thank you for the friend request!  I can help you grow your MLM with this amazing automated system!"  See above and watch your friend count DROP.

Bad Scenario Number 3:  You have a new friend, you see they are in the same industry, you decide to ask them a question "are you open to looking at other opportunties"

Bad Scenario Number 4:  You have a new friend, you see they are in the same industry, you write them a note "I see you are with Company X, that looks really interesting, could you tell me more?"  However your INTENT is that you DON'T CARE, you just want a reason to talk about YOUR opportunity.

Private Chat

Bad Scenario Number 1:  Hi.... hi.... hi.... you keep persisting and get no answer.  Let it go, they don't want to talk to you.  Or they are away from their computer.

Bad Scenario Number 2:  "How are you?  Do you like Chocolate?"

Bad Scenario Number 3:  "Could I ask you a favor?"  leading to a request to 'watch a quick video...

Bad Scenario Number 4:  "Hey, will you give me your honest opinion?"   Come on, we all know where it is going...

I hope you can see the pattern here, the above methods are not marketing.  They are shoving an opportunity down someone's throat.  I don't know why people do this, or teach this, but the conversion rate is low. 

The key to a place like Facebook is building relationships.  Be HUMAN, be REAL and if people are interested in YOU they will ask YOU for information.

Plainly put, do NOT do to others, what you do NOT want them to do to you.  How would YOU feel if you got those messages in YOUR Private Message Box?  How would you feel with a bait and switch scenario?

That is always one way to gauge your marketing, you must respect others with the same greatness you expect them to respect you with....

Alethea Anderson
Being Respectful of your Greatness